Halloween 2006. A first. I gaze at this picture, holding back tears, at what was and how time sprints from this little baby to a girl approaching double-digits. Feisty and independent, at 9 months she grabbed the bottle, eager to forge her own path. Glimpses of her personality bloomed in small ways: her little hands grabbed the edges of the couch and her feet inched sideways, peek-a-boo always meant a deep, guttural laugh that I never forgot and when held by strangers, she not only announced her disdain, but screamed it.
Fast forward almost 9 years later. She shops for the Halloween costume of her choice, fumbling through aisles, trying to find what will work for her. Definite opinions guide her choices. Strong-willed, she inches forward to adolescence. Her excitement about trick-or-treating builds as she decorates her bed room window with sticky pumpkins, cobwebs and lights. All week, I’ve heard her say,”I cannot wait to go trick-or-treat, Momma. I am so excited.”
From babbling to a voice that articulates sentences, I sigh with a loudness I only understand.
I keep watching and listening, accumulating memories.
“You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?” Jeanette Wintersone
Image: Red Spokes by Angie Harms via Flickr.
It is that time again. Every month I chronicle those everyday things that give me comfort or offer a place of reflection or joy. Here are my everyday delights for October:
1. This framed picture: Happiness is writing your own story.
I found this frame this past month at a local Hallmark store. It sits on my nightstand and every time I glance at it, I smile. I am so grateful that everyday I possess the opportunity to write my story.
2. This photo: Birthday Surprise for my Sister
I planned a birthday surprise for my sister in October. We booked tickets for my brother-in-law’s wedding and we decided to fly in early to surprise my sister on her actual birthday. We hid in her house and as soon as she came home from work we yelled, “Surprise.” This picture is during our dinner together. I love these ladies. They accept me unconditionally.
3. This course: Writing Naturally by Corinne Cunningham
As a writer, I am always trying to find ways to improve my skills and participate in workshops that will enhance my writing. I loved taking Corinne’s class in October. I rekindled my passion for free writes and fiction. I love learning and am grateful that I can always be a student. I encourage all writers to take Corinne’s class. Click here to find out more information on her course.
4. This song: Shake it Off
Some of you maybe surprised that I listen to Taylor Swift. Her recent song is so uplifting, its become an anthem for those days that I need a boost of energy. There is so much we can choose to shake off, right? Sometimes we need a hearty reminder. That’s why I love this song.
What delighted you in October? Would love to hear from you.