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I did this same meme last year and I thought it might be fun to revisit it again. Here is what is happening in my world right now.

What I Am Listening To: I am listening to Tori Amos’s new album, Unrepentant Geraldines. I’ve listened to her music since college and have attended several of her concerts. She performs with a spirit that is hard to describe. Other songs playing in the background are Maps by Maroon 5, Roar by Katy Perry and Happy by Pharell Williams. My Pandora station is set to Beyonce when I exercise. I typically obsess over one song every season and play it over and over again. Lately, Landslide by Fleetwood Mac seems to default as my music muse.

What I Am Thinking About: Many of my thoughts are scattered. There isn’t much uninterrupted time with my daughter at home and I spend time planning her days, whether it revolves around summer day camp, swimming or a playdate. In my quiet moments, I’ve gravitated toward thinking about the tragedies that haunt so many and how instantly someone’s world can change. I’ve thought about the men, women and children lost in the recent airline tragedy and it prompts me to hug the ones that I love even closer.

What I Am Watching: This summer I’ve watched little television which is not unusual for me. I rarely turn on the television. I followed the World Cup this year and that created a renewed enthusiasm for a sport that I didn’t necessarily appreciate before. Also, tennis matches are on much of the time because my daughter plays. I am still a fan of Downton Abbey and Homeland and look forward to watching them again when they premiere later this year. Several friends recommend House of Cards as a series to follow, so I may try to watch a few episodes.

What I Am Bummed Out On: In the past few weeks, my days have carried the tinge of sorrow. Some of it is just my natural inclination, but I think that July is traditionally a harder month because next week is my father’s birthday. I begin to think about my childhood and a place that I called home for so long and I begin to mourn the hard edges of time. I miss hanging out with my mom and sister and the familiar connections that only home can provide.

What I Am Loving: Reading books late at night. Writing. A good night’s sleep. Candied apples. Having conversations with my daughter. Movie night with my family. Always, always, that first cup of coffee that starts my day.

 

What is a part of your world right now? Would love to hear from you. 

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The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough~Rabindranath Tagore

We are fortunate to live in a city that houses the world’s largest butterfly museum. This past weekend my daughter and I decided to venture into this butterfly wonderland. As a little girl, I chased butterflies in our neighborhood. I remember begging my father to get a net to capture these treasures. I never successfully trapped these beauties, but this glimpse of my past flickered as I walked through the greenhouse and watched as my daughter tried to chase the butterflies so that one may land on her finger.

Watching the butterflies flitter around, I gasped at the array of colors. These were butterflies that I never encountered in the past. Blues, reds and whites speckled the green landscape and landed on various flowers. Children laughed and giggled and adults seem to take their cue, gasping with sighs of wonder at how fast they moved about and within an instant, gone.

Everyone appeared to focus on the moment and, of course, the metaphor seemed appropriate. Most butterflies only live for a month and many live less because of predators, disease and large objects, like vehicles. I wondered if all just focused on the moments knowing that they are short, how our view of life might evolve. I’ve documented my propensity to not live in the present, but to anticipate time that hasn’t yet arrived.

With each photograph that I took one phrase seem to gain traction in my mind: Honor the present. It seemed so easy, standing there, watching adults and children mulling and interacting with the butterflies captured by what unfolded in front of them.

Moments, not months. Isn’t that what life is about?

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I read the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz many years ago. These are the tenets of his philosophy. I refer back to these often because his wisdom is timeless.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. 

― Don Miguel Ruiz

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Escaping the Safety of Routine

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The summer months not only mean a slower, more deliberate pace for many, but a time when families make plans to take one special trip or enjoy several mini-vacations at various destinations. There’s discussion about whether their time should be spent barefooted on the beach or perusing aquariums or museums in major cities. Some might decide to take a road trip far away from reminders of work, school or home. One common denominator is present among all these plans—the goal […]

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I loved reading this article by Nick Crocker on Medium titled, Thirty Things I’ve Learned.  I urge you to click on the link and check out his insights. Some of his lessons resonated in my marrow and I could not resist writing about those insights that impacted me the most. His first lesson, “remember you will die,” is important to consider. At first glance it appears morbid to think that way, but I believe living your moments knowing that it could be your […]

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The Undercurrent of Love

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A mind that has come to the stillness of wisdom shall know being, shall know what it is to love. Love is neither personal nor impersonal. Love is love, not to be defined or described by the mind as exclusive or inclusive. Love is its own eternity; it is the real, the supreme, the immeasurable. – Aldous Huxley Image: “Purple Flower” by Yuri Levchenko via Flickr.

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Eight and a Half

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Today my daughter turns eight and a half. I hesitated writing this piece because a part of me wants to deny that she is inching closer to double digits. She will likely be my only child and I mourn all of her milestones because they are her firsts, but my lasts. Perhaps my need to hold on shows up in ways I am only now recognizing. Her mahogany crib sits in the corner of our garage, along with the mattress, […]

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Paying Homage To The Ordinary

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This past Sunday evening, I watched my daughter raise her arm and swing her tennis racket, hoping her energy landed in the right place. The breezy air made the yellow ball look like a meteor streaking across the sky. I felt a little coolness as the wind rearranged my hair. It was an out-of-character moment for the desert summer. As she continued to play, I interchanged my focus between my phone and journal. My 5-year-journal sat in my lap. When I encounter some […]

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Enjoy

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  The yellow chair is a reminder. The state of your life maybe imperfect or on some days may not feel like enough. But isn’t that how it is for all of us? Holidays should not be the only day we set aside to celebrate, spend time with friends or sigh at the wonder of fireworks. The yellow chair is always there. That single bright spot. It can be whatever gives you that flicker of joy. A hug in the middle of the […]

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Falling Apart & Coming Together

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  “We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” ~ Pema Chodron   * I am very pleased to announce that […]

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Best Friend For Life

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My daughter loves writing notes. Sometimes when she is upset, she will write a handwritten note and slip it underneath my office door. Always, always, she writes, “Please write me back.” I do, of course, even if the note comes during the busiest part of my day. We’ve always emphasized the importance of writing as way  to express emotions, especially since her default is to cry when she is upset. I know one day this kind of communication may wane. She […]

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Don’t Let This Happen

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What if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when […]

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Everyday Delights – June Edition

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Every month I chronicle those everyday things that give me comfort or offer a place of reflection or joy. Here are my everyday delights for June: 1. This coffee mug: I love playing Words with Friends and when I saw this coffee mug, it made me smile. I added this particular mug to my coffee cup collection and enjoy drinking my favorite brew while playing, of course, Words with Friends.     2. Summer Delight: Gelato from Talenti: Run to your nearby grocery store […]

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Some Questions & Answers

June 20, 2014

My friend Cecilia asked that I answer these questions in this meme. Please make some time to head over to her space, Only You. She writes honestly about anxiety, vulnerability and offers insightful book reviews. When her pieces appear in my feed, I know that Cecilia will write with authenticity. That’s what I appreciate about her writing. After reading her words, I feel less alone. Thanks, Cecilia for your candor. 1. Which author’s voice is most compelling to you? This is […]

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A Little Bit Of Good

June 18, 2014

Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world. Desmond Tutu

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Six Parenting Lessons From A Father Dying In Hospice

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I helped my father die in home hospice. The oncologist said those words, the ones that are repeated in hospital rooms, in the middle of alleys, and in the back of ambulances, “There is nothing more we can do.” With those seven words, I began participating in his limbo. He split his time like a firefly. He vacillated between embracing small flickers of life and languishing on the path of lifelessness. His body withered in the middle of my childhood […]

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This Girl Misses Her Father

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  Revisiting old memories unearths feelings you are not always ready to confront. On a recent trip home to Texas, I uncovered some old albums that featured snapshots of my father. In this particular picture, I am two months old, on my belly, huddled next to my father. When I looked at the photograph, I smiled, chuckling at the full head of hair on both of us. When I lift my head up to take a second glance, I noticed the grins […]

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